There is a delightful video clip circulating on the Internet. In it, a woman approaches Michael Buble during a concert and tells him that her son “sings really good.” Buble looks amused/annoyed. The surprised boy is beckoned to the stage and Buble says, “You’re 15 and you want to sing?”
Sam mumbles something that is not audible in the video. Then the mom says something and Buble says into the mike, “I know you’re a mom. I’m a singer. I show up and do this.”
Buble then throws up his hands and says, “You know what? We’ve taken it this far already. Come up here for a minute.”
Sam Hollyman is lifted over the bar that separates the audience from the stage. When he begins singing, Buble’s eyes go wide, he jumps up and says, “Holy s#itzballs mom. Sam can sing.” The audience applauds wildly.
Fast-forward a few days and Sam is an internet sensation. He’s on tv. A boy who started singing just two years ago when he signed up for a music class at school is famous, and happily so, thanks to his courageous mother.
You can watch the exchange here or click on the picture.
Mothers see the gold in their children. We see the obsessive joy of autism (link) in flapping hands. We know that calling something a splinter-skill does not negate its value. We are aware that what most people see of our children is not all there is to be seen.
How did Paula disrupt a major concert to bring attention to her son? She said, “I wasn’t sure whether I would do it, but I’d had a couple of glasses of wine and I just thought ‘go for it,’ and I just marched up to the stage and told him.”
What’s wine got to do (got to do) with it?
When I feel the shoulds and have-tos creeping in, I’ve begun to ask:
What would I do if there were no social constraints, family obligations, other limitations binding me?
I watch my children, both spectrumy and neurotypical (though I say this only for convention. I believe we are all part of the spectrum of humanity and there is no typical. Certainly not in my house.) and they do not feel constrained by shoulds and conventions. They do what feels good. They think differently.
Last year, when asked what five things he would bring to an island, Stephen started with “Cruise ship.” Um. Yes. Bye-bye limited thinking.
The wine represents letting our guard down, saying “no” to what we’re supposed to do, and “Yes!” to what feels good and right. No wine required.
I’d really love to know:
What would you do if there were no social constraints, family obligations, other limitations binding you?
Please leave a comment and say what feels good and right to you.
As you consider the above question, also consider joining the Swan Mothers’ Circle that starts February 8, 2012. We’ll say good-bye to our mistaken image of ourselves as defunct ducklings and learn fun ways that will move us toward embodying our Swan Essence. And remember, Swan Mothers have Swan Children. I hope to meet you in the group.