Welcome Soul Sister.
I’ve been waiting for you.
I know this path you walk.
Why does it have to be so hard?
What can I do to help my child?
Dear God, Not again!
How did you come to be here, on the Swan Mother’s Journey?
(I tell my story, and those of many mothers like us, in Swan Mothers: Discovering Our True Selves by Parenting Uniquely Magnificent Children.)
Me? I was blessed with 29 beautifully ordinary years. Family camping adventures. Good grades, reasonably easily achieved. Road trips with friends. Love!
Motherhood landed me on a new island and the orderly ship that had carried me there promptly sank. There was no way to return to the Ordinary World. My Hero’s Journey began.
My children (perhaps yours too?) missed the Supposed To line in pre-life orientation.
I had been Super-Everygirl.
Oh yes. I was a master of Supposed To.
I devoured Judith Martin’s Miss Manners books. I inhaled pull-your-shoulders-out-of-their-sockets loads of parenting books. I made flashcards for my baby.
My children were blissfully unaware of my Supposed To (supposed) Mastery. Each came with a clear mission and unique way of being. None developed in accordance with professionals’ timelines and charts.
I was well trained. I embraced my job as a parent and set out to fix them. To make them the way they were supposed to be. I was doing my best, but it wasn’t pretty.